There just hasn’t been time or energy enough for blogging lately. I hate that, but what’s a girl to do? I spent weeks preparing for Christmas and then weeks more recovering from it and blogging has fallen by the wayside.
Oh, to have the ability to do it all! What a joy it would be to be perfect! To have a beautiful blog and a clean house with well-organized closets! To have a set-in-stone and faithfully maintained schedule! To somehow be the best Christian, wife, mother, teacher, friend, cook, housekeeper, and blogger that the world has ever known!
For me, it just ain’t happenin’.
There was a time I thought other people managed it, which only made me put greater pressure on myself. If they could do it, why couldn’t I? But I’ve learned better. Perfection in one area will almost always result in reciprocal failure in another. That’s just the way it works. We’re human and we can’t possibly do it all and do it all well.
But that certainly doesn’t keep us from trying, does it? We women are the worst! Generally speaking, I think men are better at recognizing their strengths and focusing on them while we are natural multitaskers and will absolutely kill ourselves trying to do everything and do it the way we feel it should be done, even if that isn’t humanly possible. And when we fail, like we inevitably will, we beat ourselves over the head again and again and mourn what incredible losers we are, just because we couldn’t accomplish what was impossible to accomplish in the first place! Go figure!
I stumbled across a blog the other day and was fooled for just a moment. The blogger was a homeschooling mom, a beautiful woman with four equally beautiful children. Her homeschool classroom was to die for. Her organization appeared flawless. Her blog was lovely. Her posts were helpful and insightful and frequent.
And I wanted very much to beat my head against the table! Why? Because she seemed to be achieving everything I wanted to achieve and yet haven’t been able to!
But all I needed to do was keep reading. The chinks in her armor quickly became apparent. Mrs. Perfect Homeschooling Mom admitted her laundry never ends and often she doesn’t cook because she simply can’t find the time and that sometimes her husband steps in to do the homeschooling or else she could never blog. She was remarkably candid and I realized perfection was something I had attributed to her on my own, not something she had ever claimed.
That’s our problem much of the time, I’m afraid. We compare ourselves to others and that’s where we begin to feel like miserable failures. But we’re all so different. Our strengths and our weaknesses vary greatly. What I excel at, you may not. What you easily achieve, I may struggle to attain.
And that’s okay. There is no Mrs. Perfect and we’d all fair a lot better if we’d stop trying to be her.
“…they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.” 2 Corinthians 10:12
Ouch. You’d think the apostle Paul knew me well. But I’m learning. I can’t be it all or have it all, but I can do my best to be my best and God expects nothing more of me. Why should I expect more of myself?
I read this old poem years ago and it comes to my mind again. It’s simple and I like it.
Be the Best of Whatever You Are
If you can’t be a pine on the top of the hill,
Be a scrub in the valley-but be
The best little scrub by the side of the rill;
Be a bush if you can’t be a tree.
If you can’t be a bush be a bit of the grass,
And some highway happier make;
If you can’t be a muskie then just be a bass-
But the liveliest bass in the lake!
We can’t all be captains, we’ve got to be crew,
There’s something for all of us here,
There’s big work to do, and there’s lesser to do,
And the task you must do is the near.
If you can’t be a highway then just be a trail,
If you can’t be the sun be a star;
It isn’t by size that you win or you fail-
Be the best of whatever you are!